I told my wife after about a month.She was very cool about it. From a selfish point of view I'd rather she didn't, but if she does I'd rather be helping her.In the beginning I didn't want to know anything about the donor but I thought she might want to know, so I found out some basic details about him.I'm not curious about any children that might be conceived using my eggs. We'd decided not to have any more children, our family was complete, and it seemed like I had all these eggs going to waste.My daughter knows she is donor conceived, but I have no idea if she will pursue the identity of the father when she's older. I had suffered from infertility for two years and it seemed like hell, but [some] wait 10 years.My husband has progressive MS, and by the time my daughter was two he was in a wheelchair. Through being involved with the Donor Conception Network I know that women waiting for donor eggs can wait three years for one attempt.I only waited six months. I couldn't bear the thought of a child building up a fantasy of what the donor was like, or spending years trying to find someone.I have a daughter who is four and a half, who was conceived using sperm donation. "It was a really weird, coming-home feeling," she explains, "and I hadn't wanted it at all because I was scared I didn't want to know about that bit and here he was.
And he's larger than life itself, so there's no escaping him." The mother: 'She does things just like my husband does' Dr Siaron West, 33, Cardiff - Conceived a child using donated sperm. Has also donated eggsThis is not like a fairy tale, where you find your real mother I'm not giving away a child; I'm giving away eggs. I think keeping information from someone is what makes them want to know.When I signed the forms I specified that I was happy to be identified. But she still can't explain why she felt the overwhelming need to find out where she came from.
And I don't think that's any different for someone conceived through donor eggs or sperm than for someone who is adopted."For Nimmy March, there has been a happy ending. "There are basic questions that people want answered about themselves. When I looked at her, it was as though I'm looking into a mirror, and then we started crying. And she started feeling my face - you know how kids do.""No child who is adopted will not wonder about their birth parents," says Mrs Wenban-Smith. And we didn't really need to compare them because I'm the female spit of him."Serame says: "Face to face I came across this girl. When they met, both were overwhelmed by their connection - even though each had only just discovered the other existed."He got into the car, and he took one look at me and said, 'Oh my God, it's like looking in the mirror'," says Ms March "We compared eyes and noses and lips and teeth.
